Helpful Relationship/Communication Tips:
A
short message from Dr. Sanchez
1. Using "
I " statements such as, "I feel ___________ when you ______ because _______". This allieviates the typical
aggressive or attacking type statement that opens up with, "You___________ or when you______. ", which can often
cause or instigate an arguement. Stick to "I think" or "I feel" statements when talking about your
thoughts and feelings. (And please remember feelings are not facts).
2. Reflective listening--Paraphrasing what the other person has said to you, to
let them know you are listening and validating their thoughts and feelings. This accomplishes three things; one they
know that you are listening, two they know that you are validating what they are saying, and three you can clarify anything
that you did not hear correctly or that you may have misunderstood.
3. Negotiating a compromise. Often times in a relationship one or both of
the individuals involved want something but are unable to come to an agreement on how to both get what they want. These
things may vary from what television programs are being watched to important financial decisions, like how investments should
be made. In all cases, negotiating agreements is the best way to help both parties stay balanced.
These are just general suggestions to improve communications in any type of relationship. If you have specific
questions for us, please call us at 305 537 2739 or email us at Drrobertsanchez@gmail.com.
Thanks,
Dr Roberto Sanchez, LMHC, Psy.D.
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